I have a cousin, who’s marriage is admired by almost everyone in my family. Many would refer to their relationship as the IDEAL relationship. The King of marital bliss, perhaps. Mothers will tell their daughters to find a husband like him, fathers will advise their sons to search for a woman like her. In our eyes, they treat each other like royalty; bearers of the throne. But, when the doors close, who knows what goes on? Who knows how many women he is sneaking into their bedroom? Who knows how much mad money she is stashing away? NO ONE; not a damn soul. I’m not saying this is happening, because as far I know all is well. That’s because I am not behind that closed door.
Stop looking at others to determine what you’d desire your relationship to be. That’s dumb, and may be practically impossible to accomplish. Let’s say said union is perfect (in a dream world). You are a fly on the wall in their homes, and all is well. Right? Right! They are the 2011 Partridge family, everything your heart desires. Why would you want to emulate someone else? Why wouldn’t you try to create a legacy of your own
If I HAD to pick a marriage I’d like my to imitate, it would be Martin and Gina, from the hit 90′s sitcom ‘Martin’. Why would you base your relationship off fictional characters? Because, I can see all the ins and out of their courtship. Nothing is hidden, nothing is left to the imagination. I don’t have to guess if he cross dresses on the weekend. It’s all laid out before me. And even in this instance, I still wouldn’t base my short comings and victories on the Paynes.
At the end of the day, base your relationship on YOU and YOURS, not THEM and THEIRS.
Nothing but L OV E
-Mother
